My self care regiment has had some pretty major changes through out the last few years. It has gone from non-existent to number one priority.
You’d think this means it comes easy for me… Think AGAIN!
Confessions of a Reformed Multitasker:
I used to rely on the infamous MULTITASKING. You could call me the multi-tasking queen! On any given day you could find me cooking dinner, with a one year old hanging from my boob, a 7 year old asking me deep theological questions like “Mom what’s eschatology?”, a five year old twirling & dancing her heart out. BUT now, I’m growing a little older and a little wiser thanks to my hardhead and my ever faithful Jesus. All that overlapping of tasks is EXHAUSTING! The reality is, I can’t do it all; at least not all at once. Especially if self care is a goal… and it should be ladies!
Enter the art & science of Self-Care. For clarification purposes, self care is biblical and is NOT selfish. Jesus was a firm believer in healthy boundaries. I like to believe that He lived by a motto “there is a time an place for everything”. This is why we see him leaving the crowd to pray and reclaim His peace.
Ladies we NEED to do this too.
Maybe your kids are older and it’s practices, rehearsals, and games that tie up your time. Maybe your job is demanding and keeps you from spending the type of time you desire on your family or yourself. Or the pursuit of ministry keeps you glued to your social media and email. These tips are so practical that they can meet any woman where she is. Enjoy!
- Give yourself a break! Life is not perfect, so stop feeling like you have to be perfect. A change in your attitude is the first step towards proper self care.
“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” Philippians 4:8
- Ask for help. It’s ok to communicate to those who love you and support you, that you need help. It’s not a sign of weakness; it’s simply communicating your needs instead of assuming people know how you feel or what you need.
- Participate in something YOU want to do regularly. Sounds like a no brainer but for people who are so used to meeting other peoples needs, this can be quite the challenge. It could be a hobby, an event, bible study, a class anything YOU want.
- Don’t completely fill your schedule up. Doing this is a set up to feel overwhelmed. Leave room for error, mistakes, last minute changes, fun, and rest. Take a Sabbath, sabbatical, or even quit if that’s most appropriate. It’s ok to miss an appointment, event, or practice for your mental health. You are worth it.
- Pray about your lack of rest, the way it makes you feel, and ask God to divinely intervene. Give your worries to God.
“Casting all your cares upon Him, for He cares for you.” 1Peter 5:7
Take God’s advice and don’t be like me, leave the super woman cape right on the TV screen where it belongs and enjoy your life as God intended for you to.
Not that I am speaking of being in need, for I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content. I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. I can do all things through him who strengthens me. Philippians 4:11-13
What are your best self care tips? Share them in the comments I can always use a few new ones!